Friday, June 26, 2009

Michael Jackson 1958-2009

Where do I begin? As I'm writing this, I am trying so hard to hold back tears. We've lost an icon, a superstar, a global humanitarian, a trend setter, an entertainer, an artist in every sense of the word. He was revolutionary. He was "Bad" He was "Invincible", and listening to his music gave me "Butterflies". He paved the way with his moonwalk for people of color to get their records played on stations where our music wasn't allowed. He was loved literally all over this planet. And even though his words were in English, he would travel the entire world just to "Rock with You". He was my dad's favorite artist of all time. They were the same age. 50 years old. I remember as a kid, my dad blasting Michael's music. Us watching that Thriller video, and having the living daylights scared outta me, then being sent to bed (young parents I tell ya). My dad had all his albums. I remember my twin brother with the red thriller jacket and glove. MJ's voice was captivating, and so soothing. I knew he was too old for me, and so at a young I promised myself I would marry a "Michael"....lol. I was just so in love with his music and his name.

Now with his dramatic death, I've been pondering about the purpose of death. Why is it so brutal, so painful, so necessary?
I'm told God only knows. And to live in the moment. God isn't done with me yet. I'm here for a purpose, and in my own way I can leave my mark as well.

Michael you will be missed.
Hope you're still entertaining...wherever you are
God Bless

Thursday, June 25, 2009

Sex=Pregnancy


Sex = Pregnancy Period

It's not a 'side effect', like contracting an STD. If you are sexually active, you must be prepared with the possibility of being pregnant/getting someone pregnant. Abortion is not a form of 'contraceptive'.

Sigh..ok..I'm done
(man, I'm stepping on toes)

Always with love,
Jacita

Relationships w/the opposite sex "OK" while in a committed relationship?


Ok so can I be real? Cuz I've been wanting to tackle this topic for a minute. Finally I have the floor. I know..I know, I'll probably have sticks and stones thrown at me, but whatever...I'm ready...haha...let's go!

So in my observations of my married/engaged/committed relationship friends, I've noticed how the majority find it 'OK' 'harmless' 'nothing wrong' with having friends of the opposite sex. And I mean in the individual sense. *Note when I say friends..I don't mean associates. I'm talking relationships. He has his female friends on the side and she has her male friends.

Screechh!!!!!

Huh?? And we wonder why men are so inclined to cheat, and marriage has become just a date on someones calendar to "partay". No one wants to get cheated on, BUT at the same time, no one wants to give up their 'friends'. I know what you're thinking, "What about friends I knew before my relationship?" "I've known so and so since high school" or "She's like a sister to me..she's family" Excuses..I say. Now don't get me wrong..I think that its important as a couple to have friends but preferably w/other couples or the woman having her "gf's" and the guy his "boys". I'm not at all saying that it's impossible to maintain a platonic relationship with a person...but they are rare and far in between. Let's keep it real. One needs to really question them self (and be honest) as to why you became friends with that person in the 1st place. Most guys usually befriend the girl they can't get a date with. So they portray "the nice guy" role...hoping he'd be next in line. And girls.. let's keep it funky..we like to befriend guys that are cute, just in case our man acts up.

Because the average person isn't working on themselves (for Christians "renewing your minds") People are lead by their lusts...and their desires. We see with our "physical" eyes, not our "spiritual" ones..therefore choosing these friends based on appearance and what they can 'do for us'.

People like to say, "Well it's healthy to have friends of the opposite sex." And I agree. What do you think your partner is for? Your partner (along with God) should fulfill you with all that you need. If you feel compelled to be around another person of the opposite sex all the time..you need to question whether or not you are ready to be in a committed relationship.

I can go on and on, but I will end with this. If you do have a friend of the opposite sex, your partner should be a friend just as well. If the friendship is truly genuine then your partner and friend should have no problem getting along or even hanging out., I mean they have 'You' in common, right? I know my guidelines are a bit old school but hey, it works for me. I'm seeing too too many couples break up over cheating...it's becoming, old, ridiculous, disturbing, and immature. Not everyone is ready to be in a committed relationship..let's be real with God, ourselves, and the one's we love. We could alleviate a lot of hurt in the future.


Always with love,

Jacita

Wednesday, June 24, 2009

Jon & Kate and the divorce epidemic in Reality TV


 Sigh..this is just truly sad. Another couple that has been succumbed to divorce via Reality TV. Didn't they learn from; Nick and Jessica, Britney and Kevin, Bobby and Whitney, Hogan and Linda, Carmen Electra and Dave, Shanna Moakler and Travis Barker....and the list goes on. I guess they all believed at one time or another that they could beat the odds.

We as a society get a kick out of watching celebrities live their lives, not realizing to the detriment of these celeb families. The sanctity of a marriage becomes tarnished once those cameras enter into their doorways. But the media doesn't care, "Hey more drama...more money". And the same goes for the Gosselin family. Kate said it best herself, "The show must go on." Her family of ten is falling apart...and all she can think of at the moment is making sure the show goes on so she can get paid. All I can do is smh. I'm not here to judge but, it bothers me that people are willing to do things like, display their lives on tv to make a quick buck. If making that much money is that easy...it has to be too good to be true. It makes me think of the story in the bible when the devil was tempting Jesus. He promised to give Jesus all the kingdoms of the world if He would bow down and worship him.

All the money, power, and fame come at a price. Are you willing to lose your soul, your family, your life for temporary happiness?